As an active Twitter user (well more like a Twitter addict), I often stumble upon triggering tweets and/or TwitPics (pictures uploaded on Twitter) that relate to gender. Specifically, the tweets that arouse negative feelings in me are posted by men who are ignorant about the female experience.
Scrolling down my trending line (TL) on Twitter, I noticed a retweet (RT) by one of my followers. The person my follower retweeted resembled J. Cole and as a major J.Cole fan, I just had to view his Twitter profile. I started looking through his TwitPics and this picture came up.
My initial reaction to this picture was it is easier to twerk on air instead of a dick. The best way I can describe twerking is when a person dances by moving his/her butt cheeks in a vigorous motion. Synonyms for twerking are gyrating, booty shaking, grinding or juking by yourself. While twerking and sex do share a commonality of moving one's pelvis in a rhythmic motion, they are two different activities. I feel that one mistake men make is correlating twerking with sex.
Living in a culture where it is not socially unacceptable for women to be sex positive, it is not a simple task for women to learn about sex. Growing up both female and Christian, my sex education lessons outside sperm, eggs, and ovaries were , “Wait until marriage to have sex” and “Don’t let a boy touch your butt or see your panties.”
When I lost my virginity, I had little to no idea what I was doing. Since the male I was having sex with knew more than me, we had sex in the position that he wanted, which was missionary. I did continue to have sex and would attempt to “be on top” or “ride”, but it would always cause pain and the male I was having sex with did not know enough to teach me how to do it properly.
Learning how to twerk was easier than learning how to have sex. I learned how to twerk and shake my ass by going to school dances, parties, clubs etc. I will admit, I did learn some twerking moves from watching porn, but when I attempted to do this on a dick, it was not as simple. Whenever attempting to ride, I would easily get frustrated and stop. In addition to, I began watching porn years later after I started having sex. During the gap of time, I had minimal sources to teach me about having sex. This is to not say that I will never attempt to learn how to ride, I will just be twerking away in the meantime.
SH
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